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Surprise, She’s Pregnant

June 15th, 2011 by Beth Feldman Founder, Role Mommy

If you happened to miss the season finale of Parenthood, then do I have a spoiler for you. Kristina, who already has a teenage daughter and a son with Asperger’s syndrome, found out that she was pregnant just as her husband tells her he’s been laid off.

Personally, the thought of becoming pregnant again at my age (not that I’m old or anything) scares me. Right at this very moment, I feel as if my kids are at the perfect age (12 and 9) for all of us to start traveling to incredible places — plus, nobody throws tantrums in restaurants anymore. With a baby in tow, exotic vacations and fancy restaurants would probably be off the grid for a very long time, and I’d miss the window where we could all travel together as a family because let’s face it, once kids become teens, they want to assert their independence and leave their parents at home.

On the flip side, there is nothing that quite compares to holding a newborn in the crook of your arm, or the way they smell after you’ve given them a bath, or the moment they smile for the first time or take their first steps. And on the bright side, if I ever did have another child, my daughter has finally hit the perfect age to babysit.

I guess at the end of the day, if I were to get caught by surprise with a pregnancy, I’d embrace it and bring the baby along on the adventures we had already planned to create as a family.

What about you? If you have older kids and became pregnant unexpectedly, would you be happy? Would you sob? Or would you be in a state of shock? Check out “Parenthood” and the clip above to find out how they dealt with this unexpected news.

Last comment: Aug 22nd 2014 5 Comments
  • Tach says:

    Wow, they did do a really good job with that. I was 16, my sister was 11, and my brother was 9 when my mom got pregnant with my little brother. It was so much fun helping raise him, and we played with him but also taught him a lot. Some times he even seemed like a mini-teen. Then when I was 20, my sister was 16, and my brothers were 14 and 4, my mom had another little boy. With the youngest it was a different because when I was home, I had to help take care of this child that could have been mine instead of my brother. He was raised differently too, my mom didn’t discipline him like she did with us older 4 children and it made living at home tough. He’s part of the reason me and my sister moved out as soon as we did. I think that was good for us though. We learned responsibility with our first “surprise” brother, then independence from our youngest “surprise” brother. Even though I’m married and have a baby on the way, I still miss my siblings. My youngest brother, even though he’s a major brat, is the cutest thing and can be so sweet. So, in the future, if I had older children then a surprise pregnancy; I would be happy that my children would be able to have experience with babies before they had any of their own.

  • Kaylee says:

    My family is really stretched out in ages my brother is 37 my sisters are 34, 28, 15, i’m 17, and my little sister is 12

  • SF Mom says:

    i was surprised! they did a wonderful job at setting that one up…
    when I was 16 my mom had a miscarriage and i always wondered what it would have been like to have a sibling SO much younger…..

  • Mom in SF says:

    I was surprised… they did such a great job at setting it up with the idea that haddie was the one… I sometimes wonder though… I was 16 when my mom had a miscarriage and I always wondered what it would have been like to have a sister or brother so much younger!

  • Allison says:

    I’m pretty sure I would sob, what with a 15 year old and 12 year old already in the house. Agreed…my kids would be old enough to babysit…but just when there is light at the end of the tunnel to have our house back to ourselves (6 years) we have to put in another 18 years? Not sure I could handle that!!! Moral of the story, wrap it up!!!